Why You’re Afraid to Be Alone: The Ego’s Cowardice Against the Void

We chase, we acquire, we connect—but why the constant motion? The answer lies in the spiritual heart of all human anxiety: The inability to bear the void.

All madness, all mental disorder, and every anxious impulse begins when your inner imperfection cannot bear this spiritual emptiness.

The Ego’s Great Escape

The ego is a master strategist, and its core strategy is cowardice when facing the void. It’s terrified of diving into that vast emptiness and disappearing entirely. To keep itself safe and secure, the ego desperately tries to anchor you somewhere external:

• It seeks external validation: It strives for eternal perfection, divinity, or uniqueness. It looks for values—whether worldly success or spiritual status—to attach itself to.
• It builds walls of connection: It busies itself building bonds, making friends, and trying to establish its importance (build values) in the inner being of others.
• It hides behind armor: It becomes armed with knowledge (ideas, philosophies, theories) and deluded by the wealth of companions, mistaking activity and information for substance.

The tragedy is that this frantic activity only tightens the chains of attachment, leaving you exhausted and still fundamentally empty. The beginning of all suffering is this frantic avoidance of spiritual imperfection alone.

Surrender is the Only Way Out

There is only one path to liberation from this self-created drama: You must surrender to this void.

You must allow yourself to disappear into it. This is not a failure; it is the ultimate, necessary act of spiritual courage.

When you let go of the need for evidence of your existence, when all your carefully constructed identities are dissolved, something extraordinary happens. You emerge, not into eternal desolation or loneliness, but into supreme solitude and liberation.

The fear of disappearing is the final illusion. Once the illusory sense of your separate being is gone, you find that the “void” was never empty at all—it was simply the space of pure, unconditioned being.

Stop running from the emptiness. Embrace it, and discover the wholeness that has been waiting there all along.